What Reduces or Intensifies Stammering?

For years, I believed that my stammering has no pattern. It's there sometimes and it's not there at some other time.

But that's not entirely true as it's not that out of control although it's done by the sub-conscious!

The fact that I don't stammer with everyone and always, proves that my stammering at least, is due to a psychological complexity not a physical disability.

There are factors which can intensify or calm down the stammering and promote fluency.

What intensifies stammering?

As I digged in to my sub-conscious and developed my self-observance and self-awareness skills, I realized that my sub-conscious has a very strong sense of feeling. I mean, it feels very deeply about everything, it has strong sensors that absorbs and understands the feelings and thoughts of other people and the environment around me.

I've found the main root factor that intensifies stammering is the feeling and thoughts of insecurity which happen automatically. Lack of feeling of security and love causes some stress, fear, anger and negative thoughts and consequently more stammering occur.

I initially thought anxiety and stress cause stammering but no they are just symptoms and the root seems to be the insecurity, doubt about security and lack of love factors.

• Stammering automatically happens often when meeting new people. This is mainly because our sub-conscious mind doesn't know or isn't sure whether the new people we've met are nice people or not, are threatening or helpful. That's why we stammer less with people who smile, because our sub-conscious receives a signal that he/she is a nice person :)
• Stammering automatically happens often when there is a tension with the person that we already know. Again due to the automatic thoughts and feelings of insecurity and lack of love. For example, I don't stammer with my wife as long as we're good with each other. As soon as there is an argument, funnily I sometimes start to stammer; apparently my subconscious feels the lack of love and security very strongly and responds by intensifying the stammering.
• If other people behave in a way that our sub-conscious feels it's threatening and disrespectful, the stammering may happen more. For example, if we know someone judges us and doesn't love and respect us, we probably stammer more with that person. That's why drinking some alcohol reduces stammering because we sense less of these.

So, it seems that stammering is a behaviour that our sub-conscious has chosen to somewhat protect us against those feelings of insecurity. I don't know why!

What helps achieve more fluency?

Whatever we feel, think, say and do that improves the sense of easiness, love, confidence, calmness and security helps achieving and maintaining more fluency.

The more we're committed to practice these, the more control we'll have over our stammering.

• Thoughts and feelings of inner security, safety and protection which include self-love, self-appreciation, self-confidence and self-esteem.
• Listen to light and calming music to calm down the nerves. Whenever I have an important call to make, I start listening to a very light music and that helps!
• Be Positive! Be committed to positive thoughts, words and actions every day. Positivity is your key to enjoy your every day life.
• Smile Smile Smile :)
• Breathe deeply and make sure that the air flows through our voice box when we speak
• Thoughts and feelings that the other person is a nice, loving and respectful person
• Meditation and yoga
• Prayer
• Exercise regularly
• Good posture improves confidence and helps achieve more fluency!
• Not taking life too seriously; taking easy helps often!
• Develop your emotional intelligence (EQ)

I wish I knew these when I was a child! but it's not too late anyway.

Therefore, stammering is not 100% out of control unlike what many people think. With the right practice and strategy we can overwrite our sub-conscious and change its behaviour over time. As it's a habit deep in the sub-conscious, by repetition and hypnotherapy perhaps it could get overwritten.